Four Person In Life

I received the below email from Carmen.
I find it quite true about relatonship so i just wanna share with you all.
Take your time and read slowly if you want to get better understanding because it sound like tongue twister or poems.
[S]he = She/ He


Life is the process of finding love,
every person will need to find four people in their life.

First person is you,
Second person is the one you love most,
Third person is the one who love you most,
And the fourth is the one you spend the rest of your life with.

In life, firstly you will meet with the one you love most, and learn how love feels.
Because you know how love feels,
so you can find the person who loves you most.
When you have experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved,
you will then know what it is you need most.
Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you,
to be able to spend the rest of your life with.

Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person.

The one you love most doesn't love you.
The one, who love you most, is never the one you love most.
And the one you spend your life with,
is never the one you love most or the one who love you most.
He / She is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.

Which person are you in other people's life?

No person will purposely have a change of heart.
At the point in time when he / she loves you, he / she really loves you.
But when [s]he doesn't love you anymore,
[s]he really doesn't love you anymore.
When [s]he loves you, [s]he can't pretend that [s]he doesn't.
Same goes, when [s]he loves you no more,
there's no way [s]he can pretend [s]he loves you.

When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you.
You must ask yourself if you still love him/her,
If you also don't love him/her anymore,
do not keep him/her just to save your pride.
If you still love him/her, you should wish him/her happiness,
and hope that he will be with the one [s]he loves most,
not stop him /her from it.
If you stop him/her from finding true happiness with the one [s]he loves,
it shows you already don't love her/him,
And if you don't love him/her,
what rights do you have to blame him/her for a change of heart?

Let him/her become a permanent memory in you life.
If you really love a person, you must love him/her for what [s]he is.
Love him/her for his good points, and the bad,
You can't wish for him/her to become like what you like him/her to be,
just because you love him/her.
If [s]he can't change to become what you like him/her to be,
you don't love him/her anymore.

When you really love a person,
you cannot find a reason why you love him/her,
You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood,
you will wish to have this person be with you.
Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems
without asking for promises or listing criterias.
In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times,
not always be on the receiving end.
Being away from each other is a type of test,
If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat.
Real love will never become hate.

When two people are in love,
They love to ask each other to swear, to make promises.
Why do they ask each other to swear and promise?
Because they don't trust each other, they don't trust their lover.
These swear and promises are useless;
Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for you will never change!
We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry,
Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then?

Be careful when making promises

don't make promises that you cannot keep.
Swear by things that can never happen,
because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually.
Remember, swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching!!
In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another;
The one saying, doesn't believe;
the one listening, also doesn't believe.